Life Tips

12 Steps to a Better Self


1. Appreciate the positives at all times. Be grateful for all the wonderful things in your life, even when you are struggling with some of the negatives.

2. Give, be unselfish, and help others. Remember, they are struggling with life just like you are.

3. Don’t claim to be right all the time, or at least don’t try to persuade others that you are right and they are wrong. LISTEN, and accept the other person’s right to believe as they wish.

4. Accept that life will frustrate and hurt you sometimes. Change those things you can change—make peace with the rest.

5. Don’t get upset or angry over things you cannot control, especially if they are not important in the long run anyway. Practice patience and cultivate calmness.

6. Avoid useless negative thoughts. Be aware of them, don’t try to fight through them, just let them go.

7. Develop greater tolerance, and accept what others choose to do without judging it or being upset by it. If possible, think of ways you can learn from the things that annoy and frustrate you about other people (e.g., learn the art of patience, test your capacity for forgiveness).

8. Forgive and let go (and do it first, don’t wait for the other person).

9. Don’t worry and ruminate. Think through your concern, decide what can be done, do that, then drop it.

10. Relax more. Meditate daily. Have quiet time. Spend some time
just being, not doing. Turn off the mental motors and let your mind idle.

11. Be more in the moment. Focus on the present. Live fully now.

12.  Express your love frequently and fervently.

I’ve quoted this verbatim, as I find it powerful.  The 12 Steps were created by the child psychologist David Weatherford.  His work has been repeated many times, yet has a timeless quality.    You may have encountered David’s famous poem “Slow Dance” which is also profound.

See more of David’s work at


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