Is failure good or bad?
I think it feels bad. Yes it does.
Abraham Hicks says “You are meant to succeed, and failure should feel bad to you. Life is supposed to go well for you—and when it does not, there is something wrong.”
Is this true? Failure is about getting things wrong, but should it “feel bad”.
So why does failure feel so bad?
When Michael Jordon was rejected from his High School basketball team he went home and cried!
Our society values success, achievement and popularity. We want to be liked and approved of. When we do something wrong, all these things are at risk. We fear the disapproval and reproach of others.
Feelings are transient however. They can be induced or suppressed with chemicals or actions. They are very local and prevent us from seeing the big picture. To escape these feelings, it helps to look at events in perspective.
A well known big picture guy was Winston Churchill said that “Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”
He understood that failure was part of the process, not the process itself.
Michael Jordan didn’t give up either. He says “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”